Here’s one sex act you didn’t see on Team America: double penetration (dp). A now integral part of two-guys-and-a-girl threesomes and free for all gangbang scenes, double penetration has saturated mainstream porn. Before you try dp at home though, heed my warning. Contrary to the ease with which guys position themselves and slide their cocks into a female performer’s orifices in your favorite films, in real life dp is nothing short of an acrobatic feat.
My fascination with a particular subcategory of dp – ass/pussy double penetration (or “apdp” for short) – started long before I became exposed to the practice online. In a post I wrote last year for Peeperz, I elaborated on my recurring dream of being ravished by a tentacled leviathan. Examined in the clear light of day, this story helped me realize that a part of me was driven by a primal, submissive yearning to be completely filled in a way that far exceeded what any one man can accomplish alone.
French philosopher and hardcore fiction pornographer Georges Bataille would equate my dream to an expression of my desire – the desire of a discontinuous, individual being – to experience a sense of profound continuity. Furthermore, he would likely argue that my dream lays bare the notion that what is at stake in any form of eroticism, be it sexual, romantic, or spiritual, is the dissolution of constituted forms (bodies, identities).
The enlightened context of Bataille’s take on sexuality not only fascinated me as a result of its associations with Tantric sex, but also gave me license to explore my tentacle porn dream and experiment with apdp. Contrary to the woman who posted an online video clip of herself shitting an octopus, however, my research didn’t involve a necrophilic act of bestiality. Instead, I attempted to adapt my fantasy to real-life, multiple penetration scenarios involving inanimate objects and, eventually, consenting adults.
At first, before I worked up the courage to ask two men to fuck me in tandem, I played with toys. With one dildo in my ass and another in my pussy, I masturbated in countless different positions until I finally figured out my preferred double penetration angle. Even if you never graduate to practicing apdp with men, it is well worth a try with props. The seismic orgasms you’ll experience on account of having your sphincter, G-spot, and clit stimulated at the same time are mind-blowing.
As soon as you raise the stakes by trading toys for hard cocks, however, apdp transcends the private sphere of closet masturbation and becomes a collaborative art form. As with any art, success requires practice, skill, and commitment. Beyond the physical challenges involved in apdp, to enjoy a mutually satisfying session you should be aware of two pitfalls before getting started: performance anxiety and overstimulation.
Keep in mind that although the idea of an apdp threesome may appeal to most men, in actual practice it is not uncommon for them to feel overwhelmed – at least the first time around. For one thing, the membrane separating your vagina from your rectum is thin, and some guys may be shy about crossing swords or feeling another cock in such close proximity. Likewise, some straight guys find it challenging to maintain an erection in front of other men. In my experience, creating an open, accepting, and non-competitive atmosphere that fosters communication and exploration helps all participants to overcome their respective fears.
Overstimulation, on the other hand, causing guys to get off too soon and the woman to forgo orgasm altogether, requires the same amount of patience to work through. While premature ejaculation may be embarrassing for guys, repeated apdp practice quickly desensitizes them. The situation is not as simple for the woman. In my case, achieving orgasm requires concentration and the ability to let myself go – two things I can easily do during an intimate, one-on-one session with my lover, but have been unable to manage in a threesome. Yet. Nonetheless, I’m confident that in time I will overcome my mental block and be able to experience the full force of a double penetration orgasm. What makes me so certain? I know one thing for sure about apdp. As with any art, repeating the process will eventually give rise to something beautiful.
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